Online Dating: Has It Made It Easier For People To Cheat?

In the past, someone would have had to leave to meet someone, but in today's world, it is more necessary. Today, all you have to do is go online.

Online Dating

Social networks can help you find what they need, or they can go ahead and join a dating site. As for what is the possibility that everything may depend on what they need.

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However, this does not mean that you cannot select an option, as they can use both. And instead of only joining a dating site, you can reach more of it.

In this sense, it is similar to many bars and clubs at the same time. Therefore, it can be said to have a lot more control than they would if they had to leave the world.

Difference

At the same time, we usually find it easier to meet people on a dating site on social networks. When using social media, they could be able to take things further with someone you know or even someone they were before.

But otherwise, it will not be easy for them to find the kind of person who is up to them. It will not be the case when the sites are there to help with this benefit.

The right choice

With the signing site, we can find someone who meets your criteria, and that means that they will not spend time going through the profiles that are not a coincidence. However, it does not mean that they will find someone right away because they can experience some challenges.

However, if you went into the real world does not mean you will immediately find someone, either. So, it will be substantial for the patient and realize that they cannot find your ideal partner when they want.

Both sides

And what they do on the outside, but will also have to be in the right place internally. If you are in the right place, then it is very likely that they will find someone who is good for them.

For example, if you want to run a marathon, they not only appeared on the race; be subject to appropriate training. Similarly, if we want to bark partners, but also to prepare.

Own love

Now that does not mean that it should be in a position where they always say nice things themselves and their life is perfect. The intention is that, if you do not, there is a high possibility that it will end up attracting someone who is the same.

Dating Online

Each of them, then it will not be in the right place, and we can become someone who is malicious, for example. Therefore it is said that for the guy to find, must become.

Fundamentals

When you evaluate yourself, it will be much easier for them to find someone who also appreciates. In the end, people have to attract into your life will be affected at some level.

You could say that the more a person remains in his life, plus the possibility that what is happening in them corresponds to what happens to other people. If you are attracted to individuals who appreciate and admire them, they can be euphoric to accept.

Self-Awareness

However, if this is not the case, it can be much harder for them to see the people in your life that reflect in some way. However, if you want to change your situation, it is essential for them to take a deeper look at what is happening within the hour.

And although this is something that can cause a lot of pain experience, it will not last forever. The alternative would be for one to ignore what is happening in them and continue to attract people who are not perfect.

The other side

So, when you are happy with themselves and their lives, which attracts someone online should be relatively straightforward. However, although you can use online meetings to start a new relationship, they can also end up using it when you are already in one.

What does it mean that its use can be taken for small risk; particularly since we can find someone without changing your schedule? They can behave as usual, and there is no reason to suspect their partner that something is happening.

As usual

Then you can discover if there are other people, when they are at work or when you are at home and do not need to use a lot of energy. However, if your partner is in agreement with them, you may notice that they are not as present as usual.

And as we talk only with other people online and in person, there is a possibility that you do not feel like they did something wrong, or if you feel guilty, you could say that they treat people. So, it is then it will be much easier for one to justify their behavior.

One step further

After a while, you might end up taking the next step, and what people does say on the Internet will be supported by what they do. Then we have not only betrayed your partner in conversation with other people in a sexual way, which is released then go with someone else.

Conclusion

As we know that if someone wants to cheat will do, and that is something that cannot out taken. At the same time, if online dating is possible to continue with your life.

On the one hand, there would be a greater need for them to work things out with your partner. It is similar to it often eat chocolate if someone close to them, and how they can eat anything if it were not available.

10 Things Girls Do Everyday That Guys Secretly Hate, You’ll All AGREE With No. 6

Frustrated man

I doubt that there’s any guy in the world that loves an indecisive girl but most girls are unknowingly indecisive. For example you guys could be on a date and he’d ask you if you want meat pie or jollof and you’d respond anyone “i’m indifferent”, that response would piss an average guy off because that makes you look very indecisive and NOBODY likes people who are indecisive. Here are other things ladies do almost every time that guys loathe with a passion but wont complain about.

1. BEING TOO ‘PERFUMY’: While you might love the smell of your perfume and your guy might like it in a light form, if you pile on spray after spray and he smells just like it when he leaves your house, that might not be the best thing.

Smelling good is one thing ladies, but spraying yourself so that the scent embeds itself into your skin isn’t. Keep it light girls and your guy will totally appreciate it! See, I bet this is one turn-off for guys that you didn’t know!

2. ACTING DESPERATE: Another turn-off for guys that they absolutely hate is a girl that seems too desperate. If you are constantly clinging to him and constantly seeming that you can’t live without your guy, it is too much. A guy likes a girl that is independent and that only depends on him when she really needs help. Remember that, girls, when you are clinging too hard to your man!

3. ACTING STUPID: You might think that it’s cute to play dumb a lot of the time, guys actually like girls that have opinions and that are smart. If you know something girls, make sure that you speak up! This is one turn-off for guys that a lot of women don’t take too seriously, but it works. Just be yourself, girls!

4. WHEN YOU’RE TOO EASY: Girls, this statement is not just about s*x, it is about everything! Guys like to have someone that is interesting, someone that won’t give away all of their secrets on the first date. You want to leave some mystery there and make sure that you are keeping the relationship interesting and fresh.

5. WHEN YOU TRY AND CHANGE HIM: A man wants you to like him for who he is. If you decide to date him, but then try to change his personality or appearance, he’s going to feel like he’s not good enough for you. You’re only going to hurt his ego. If you don’t like him, then find a new man instead of trying to change the one you have.

6. TRYING TO MAKE HIM JEALOUS: Most girls are guilty of trying to make our boyfriend or #crush jealous by talking to another guy. However, this could lead to disaster. You don’t want him to think that you’ve lost interest in him and that you’d rather be with someone else. How would you like it if he flirted with another girl in front of you? It’s never fun to watch.

7. BEING A NAG: Guys have set ideas about what they consider nagging, but if they perceive it in you, many of them don’t like it. It’s better to have conversations than lectures, remember. It’s frustrating for a girl when it seems like a guy isn’t listening, and it’s frustrating for him if he thinks she’s nagging – that’s why.

8. WEARING TOO MUCH MAKEUP: Even though it’s a women’s choice to wear the amount of makeup she wants, men have an opinion on it – and they’re entitled to a physical preference, as long as they don’t make someone feel bad about it.

When guys say they like a “natural look,” however, it’s often because they don’t know what concealer, bronzer, mascara, and highlighter can really do.

9. BEING INDECISIVE: If you can never choose something, that … well, that can get annoying. It’s a turn off when anyone does it, though, the gender doesn’t matter. Am I right?

10. NEVER OFFERING TO PAY: He picks up the check because it’s the gentlemanly thing to do. However, you should at least reach for your wallet. He might not want you to pay, but he’ll appreciate your offer.

What Do You Think? Add yours in the comment box..

Ways Responsible Ladies Advertise Themselves To Men (MUST READ)

In the society today, there are several beautiful single ladies whose aspiration is to marry a good husband but due to their ridiculous demands, guys get scared and settle for the ones who understand their financial situation.

However, a responsible lady surely knows the best way to sell herself costly to a guy. The following points are often used by these ladies to get what they want

1. Striking Up Intellectual Discussions

In the era when many ladies are so dumb that they're always quiet during intellectual discussions while the responses you will always get from most of them is "nothing, "I don't know"; responsible ladies advertise themselves by striking up an intellectual discussion and by so doing, this will surely make a man want to get to know more of her.

2. Preparing Delicious Delicacy

An adage says "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach". To keep a man, a lady should be able to know how to cook delicious delicacy that will make canteen foods taste soar to the man. It's very shameful that some ladies read manual before boiling ordinary egg. Responsible ladies are not lazy, they help their mother in the kitchen which improve their cooking skills to suit their men.

3. Approaching Men Diligently

The issue of whether it is ideal for a woman to approach a man has been causing controversy for a long time. By the virtue of this, most ladies are filled with pride and overbloated ego that when you approach them, they will squeeze their faces as if they're drinking "jedi-jedi". Responsible ladies are courageous and confident. They know how to diligently approach a man without the man feeling like he's too special or something.

4. Perseverance and Humility

These are the watchword of responsible ladies which they use to advertise themselves to serious minded men knowing fully when that no matter how beautiful a lady may be, if her behaviour is like that of a thug or tout, no guy will want to approach her.

5. Eating Responsibly/Moderately During Date

I remember when my friend, Tosyne2much, said he once took a lady to an eatery only her to be feeding as if there's famine in Nigeria. He had to borrow transport fare from one of the waiters as he couldn't trek home. Many ladies are like this. Responsible ladies request moderately, they won't order for take-away, infact, some of them will order and will volunteer to pay. This act is such a big turn on for most guys.


6. Dynamism in Intimacy and Romance

I am not saying as a lady, you should have sex frequently but when that special moment comes with your partner, don't allow him to do all the hard-work while you will be lying down like log of wood. Learn several intimate positions most especially from experienced married couples and whirl your man during love making. There is no way he won't consider proposing to you except he doesn't genuinely loves you.

7. Rejecting Gifts

It is very difficult for ladies to reject gifts from guys in this Buhari administration especially if the gift is an expensive one. However, no matter how needy responsible girls can be, they don't show to men that they're money mongers. As a matter of fact, some of them will even reject your money even when they need it.

8. Dressing Responsibly

Another way responsible ladies advertise themselves to men is that they dress appealing and moderately. They don't dress half unclad, they don't wear tattoo, they don't sag their trousers, they don't wear anklets and waist chains that will give men the impression that they're runs girls.

2 Guys Call Out A Lady On Facebook Saying She Begged Them To Sleep With Her For N10k

I found this on Facebook. Two guys but are mutual friends on Facebook called out this lady accusing her of being loose and calling her very derogatory names, another grab below;

My Girlfriend Slept With My Lecturer For Me To Graduate, Should I Just Leave Her? – Boyfriend Laments

A 30-year old man who recently graduated after failing multiple courses in the higher institution has revealed his girlfriend’s clandestine romance with his lecturer to facilitate his graduation.

The story of a fresh graduate whose girlfriend had a s*xual relationship with his elderly school professor for days in order to earn his a waiver on failed courses was shared by Joro Olumofin.

Read the shocking story below:-

Dear Readers, This Young Man needs your Advice.

Drop your comments.

My Girlfriend Is A Bank Marketer, She Recently Returned Home Without Her Pants – Angry Lover Cries Out

A man who is currently dating a female bank marketer has showed his paranoia on social media due to the tag of ‘corporate prostitution’ attached to her job title by the Nigerian society.
Corporate prostitution in the banking sector is well pronounced and has been crippling romantic relationships. A case in hand is a recent stroy sent to Joro Olumofin by a disturbed Nigerian man.
Read his story below and draw lessons:-

What do you think this Young man should do?
Drop your comments.

6 Foods Not To Order On A First Date With A Nigerian Man

The perfect dress, the perfect hairdo, face on fleek and bringing your A-game and then out of the blues some spinach stuck in between your teeth ruins what should have been a perfect evening!

Food is important and here are 6 things you should totally avoid on a first date!

1) Spaghetti!
Most people can't eat spaghetti without a slurp and that slurp splatters sauce all over your mouth and chest not to mention ruining your makeup. Forget that romantic scene from Disney's 'the Lady and the tramp', spaghetti is not romantic food!

2) Draw soup
A favorite among Nigerians and guaranteed to leave a mark. Okra, ogbona or mixed, anything that leaves a trail from your plate to your mouth should be avoided at all costs!

3) Shawarma
Show me a person that can finish a whole Shawarma without making a mess and I'll show you the real MVP! Most people can't manage this small feat which is why Shawarma is a no-no!

4) Suya
Suya is delicious and not at all messy so you must be wondering why it's on the list, well it isn't the Suya per se, it's the onions that go with the suya. Most people can't eat Suya without munching on the onions and onions are almost as famous as garlic for giving bad breath. Bad breath does not a great first date make! So say no to suya please!!!

5) Food with lots of garlic
Thankfully a lot of restaurants include the ingredients for each dish in the menu. Garlic oozes from your pores not to mention giving you bad breath. I don't have to emphasize staying away, it's for your own good!

6) Experimental food
Any food that you have never eaten before is not fair game for a first date please! A number of things could go wrong. I know a girl who ordered calamari on a first date because it looked fancy and ended up in the ER with anaphylactic shock. Even if you don't get allergies, you just may hate it and have to pretend to love it to save face or there may be a certain way that sort of food is eaten. Avoid the embarrassment, stick to the familiar!

Your first date isn't the time to show him what an unrepentant foodie you are, if you can't eat it without making a mess then pretend it isn't on the menu!

Lady Exposes Her Boyfriend Who Pretends Not To Know Her In Public (Photo)

Ladies, if he can’t claim you in public, don’t let him have your "cookie jar" in private. A Lady has come out to expose her jerk of a boyfriend, who likes avoiding her and doesn’t want to be seen with her in public. The angry woman has threatened to expose the guy, let’s watch as the drama unfolds...

Question Of The Day:- How Long Should A Good Séx Last?

WARNING:- This Thread is for those above 18+ of Age.
This has been a question waiting for an answer for so long.. Many believe a good s*x must last for nothing less than 3hours.. No!
Sometimes, the time frame can be so short but the S*x is good and quality.. Sometimes it can be so long and ends up been a thrash.. No wonder some young and educated people don’t go for all this S*x energy booster, they believe their 1mins is quality and then some guys on the other hand believes you must take Alomo, Jedi, Mokole, Ogidiga and the likes to stay longer and impress the woman, my brother.. You’re a joker, major jokes on you.
From your Own point of view, How long should a good S*x last?
* 5 mins
* 10 mins
* 20 mins
* 1hr
* 1hr 30mins
* 2hrs
Drop your comments.

7 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat

Cheating is wrong, i am not in anyway trying to justify it. However, as a man, i must put myself in some men's shoes and then try to rationalize why the married one's cheat.

1. Neglect of the man

Most married women tend to neglect the men when the kids start coming. No more loved up evenings, no more hanging out. They always claim to be tired even when they have maids. Men tend to seek solace outside because they need someone to hang out with, to watch movies with and to share romantic moments with. Unfortunately, many girls out there are willing to fill this vacuum.

2. Neglect of herself

Give most women 3 to 5 years of marriage and you would see majority of them are no longer that sexy chic they used to be. No more doing up her hair regularly, no more trim figure, no more keeping up with the fashion scene. The sexy woman you married now looks like your aunty. We all understand that kids are a handful and make you tired but the problem is that they are so many sexy hot girls out there that makes your husband remember the old days. For men who are easily tempted or those who married their 'spec', they start looking for another spec since you are no longer the spec they married.

3 Reduced Intimacy

A lot of men consider intimacy and sex as a big factor in choosing a wife. If a woman has a good character but is poor in bed, most men would look somewhere else for a wife. However, many men married their wives because they used to get satisfaction from her. After marriage, most women don't care about pleasing the man. A lot always claim tiredness. For those men who have a high libido, expect them to look elsewhere for satisfaction.

4 Nagging

It's easy for a single girl to be loving, caring and understanding. After marriage it becomes a different kettle of fish for some women. they nag you over every little thing. For a man who can't stand it, he seeks solace outside, mostly in the loving arms of another single lady.

5 Variety

This is a point that has no justification but many men cheat because they want a different variety. They claim that you can't eat one soup forever, hence they seek out a different 'soup'. This is bad and is totally the man's fault. However, it is one of the major reasons most men cheat.

6 Temptation

These days some when com at a man with full force even when they know he is married. There are lot's of single girls out there ready to claim another woman's husband. Sometimes, it's difficult to resist a sexy girl who wants you and is offering herself willingly. Most men fall for this reason. Even pastors have fallen for this reason. That's why couples should be prayerful and men should pray against temptation.

7. Some men are dogs

Some men are really dogs. They cheat for cheating sake. They act like they are under a spell. They would sleep with their maids, secretary, bread seller, in short anything in skirt. Give them a model wife who gives them everything and they would still cheat. A lot of men who have many wives and girlfriends usually fall into this category. No justification for such men. They are cursed.

Please Advice Me!! Am Tired Of This, My Husband Loves To Cúm In My Mouth – Wife Cries Out

She sent in a mail to us concerning her problem…
Read below:-
My husband loves to c.um in my mouth and it’s becoming very annoying , when ever his about to c.um, he just withdraws straight into my mouth ,and if I don’t open he will keep malice with me for months and will not touch me.
So I decided to make peace reign so I started allowing him c.um in my mouth but I don’t swallow it, I will just carry it and pour it out in the bath or on the sheets. So he noticed it and got even more angry that I must be swallowing it, I refused and he brought his normal method of malice, so I accepted because am afraid of breaking my home.
So when ever he c.um in my mouth he uses his hand to cover my nose to help me swallow it by force , and after that I will cry my eyes out cause I feel like throwing up .
And I am tired of this, he makes me hate s.ex. We don’t have any kids yet because he always make me swallow all of his c.um in my mouth instead of private part .
Am getting fed up. I feel maltreated and cheated.
So I want to ask, is this part of domestic violence ? How can I fight it ? Am tired. Nigerians please advice me.
Drop your comments.


Source and full Credit: Naijaloaded

Men Only: Here's What To Do If She's Scared Of Dating You

For guys who have ladies they'll love to date, if she isn't ready to say yes to your demands then maybe you shouldn't push her.

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According to relationship expert, Marie Dubuque, the lady you like might be too scared of moving your relationship to the next level, or she just wants to know where your friendship would lead to or simply just wants to be friends.

Dubuque says pushing her for a relationship might ruin the friendship you both have and the chance of a potential relationship.

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What you should do instead is give the friendship time, let it continue for a while and if she insists that you both should remain friends, then it's advisable to move on.

Men Only: 5 Things To Know Before Dating A Woman Who Doesn’t Mind Being Single

If you are a guy and you’re willing to date such a woman, here are a few things you should keep in mind

Singles chatting.

Staying single doesn’t mean you aren’t dateable but because it’s a choice to make. A lady who has been single for a long time by choice knows that she isn’t defined by having a partner, she’s alone but isn’t lonely too.

Single lady on a date

 

She is also surrounded by men who know her confidence is the sexiest thing ever. If you are a guy and you’re willing to date such a woman, here are a few things you should keep in mind.

Inspired by LifeHack, here are 5 things to know before dating a woman who doesn’t mind being single.

1. She isn’t looking for a handbag but a partner

She doesn’t need to be smothered. You should be able to push and inspire her instead.

2. Her heart may have been broken recently

She’ll be extra sensitive and is prepared to walk away

Happy single lady
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3. She likes her freedom too well

Asking permission to do everything is part of what she signed up for

4. It’s all or nothing for her

She will never settle for less in romantic relationships. She’s giving all the love she has to everyone around her and her last relationship doesn’t define her at all.

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5. She knows what she wants

She’s not ready to play the mommy role for partner which means she bears no responsibility except that of a lover. She’s self-aware and isn’t into trial and error which means she knows how she likes her man.

Men Only: 10 Ways To Show Her You Really Love Her

For men who have special women in their lives it is necessary to pay her some attention so she knows that you really appreciate her every day

Misunderstandings are bound to arise in relationships but it doesn't mean you love your partner lesser than you used to, but necessary to always remind that special one in your life that you love them no matter what happens.

Happy Couples

 

For men who have special women in their lives, sometimes she may feel like she isn't loved and is being taken for granted, it is necessary to pay her some attention so she knows that you really appreciate her every day.

Inspired by Lifehack, here are 10 ways to show her you love her

1. Show her you are listening

Especially when she's trying to have a conversation with you

2. Compliment her

Be specific so she knows how serious you are

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3. Be respectful to her

Talk to her with respect, don't make her feel like she isn't important.

4. When she asks for your help, don't accept grudgingly

Even if you can't do it, let her know why and maybe proffer a better solution to her problems

5. Put an effort into looking good

Scruffiness isn't attractive, bath, shave and smell good just for her.

6. Admit when you are wrong

Honesty and openness will really be appreciated by her. She sees your flaws and loves you despite them.

  Working wife
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7. Be supportive

When she set on doing what matters to her, root for her, it means a lot in your relationship.

8. Be considerate

Make decisions with her in mind. Ask her opinion, even if you don't take it.

9. Plan a trip together

Go away together to a place you can spend time.

Couple In Love
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10. Forgive her

Learn to forgive and forgive her wrong doings. Try not to hold grudges towards her, it'll ruin your relationship.

10 Tips For Couples In Long Distance Relationships

It takes a lot of hard work and commitment from the two people involved  to keep their long distance relationship strong and smooth

We often hear long distance relationships rarely work due to certain issues that come up over time between couples.

Women want men to be their R.O.C.K

 

It takes a lot of hard work and commitment from the two people involved  to keep their long distance relationship strong and smooth while living in different parts of the country or world with different time zones.

Vlogger Anna Clendening, dishes out  10 tips for couples in long distance relationships

1. Schedule: Couples should be aware of each other's schedule and make out time to have conversations, video or otherwise.

Happy couple
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2. Counting down: Try to anticipate the time you'll be talking to each other. As insignificant as it sounds, anticipation makes the time and distance shorter. It brings you closer too.

3. Openness: This is very important in very relationship especially long distance one.

4. Hopeful: Just be hopeful for the best between you and your partner. Absolute trust too is essential, this will drive out thoughts of infidelity and other negative thoughts from your head.

5. Video conferencing: Skype, Facetime breaks that distance between you two. It can help your relationship a lot.

 

 

6. Care packages: Photos, other thoughtful things helps as a reminder that you both care for each other and are willing to what it takes to make things work.

7. Spontaneity and surprises: This keeps your relationship exciting and takes away boredom totally. It keeps both of you on your toes.

8. Honesty: This is extremely important. Try to be as honest as possible to your partner.

 

9. Trust: Distance will make it harder but you have to learn too trust your partner with your whole  heart though it's going to be scary. This is what brings out the best in your relationship.

4 Mistakes People Make On Dates

According to couples counsellor Barbara Bloomfield, there are common dating mistakes people who claim they are alone make

Sometimes you see someone you like but it becomes hard to establish that romantic connection due to some mistakes made during dates.

Couple on a date

 

According to couples counsellor Barbara Bloomfield, there are common dating mistakes people who claim they are alone make.

Bloomfield explains these four mistakes as:

1. Lack of confidence: She says, "Make sure you're feeling confident enough to handle dating, "People go because they're feeling desperate, and that's exactly the wrong time to go on dates. "Wear something comfortable that makes you feel good about yourself."

Couple on a date
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2. Constantly thinking there is 'the one': "People come to me and say 'I'd like to meet the one'. "You're unlikely to meet one person who is absolutely perfect for you; you are likely to meet lots of people who are good for you," Bloomfield says.

3. Dishonesty after a first date: The couples counsellor says, "A lot of dates go wrong because people are either too shy or worried about being rejected. They end the date without making any decisions. "If you like the person, tell them you like them and would like to see them again. "If you're not sure if you like them, say something like 'shall we think about over night'. "If you don't like them, find something to say. The best thing is something like 'I'm not sure that we've got enough in common. "Be clear with them. If they're a definite no let them down gently but firmly "Don't leave it hanging. So many dates and relationships fall down because most people are shy and unsure and they leave it hanging in the air and haven't got the nerve to get in touch again."

Couple on a date
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4. No engaging conversation: "People who go on dates have got to learn to look interested. "People who are having a great deal of difficulty with relationships are the ones that fall into the long boring monologues about themselves."I know this, I went on 27 dates to research it and I met 26 people who did this." "Wear something comfortable that makes you feel good about yourself", Bloomfield says.

5 Easy Ways Couples Can Communicate Effectively With Each Other

Instead of waiting for the worst thing that could happen in your marriage, you can work towards taking it back to the way it once was

Sometimes in marriage, level of communication between couples dwindle and it gets harder to express your feelings towards each other, because you don't talk everyday.

Couple talking

 

Instead of waiting for the worst thing that could happen in your marriage, you can work towards taking it back to the way it once was.

Life gets busy especially with kids, jobs and extended family but you can work together as a couple to get your marriage back on track.

Inspired by Marriage.com, here are 5 easy ways couples can communicate effectively with each other

1. Communicate with love, admiration and respect: Talk with your spouse rather than talking down on them or at them.

Couples arguing

 

2. Go away together: Sometimes, it's okay to just leave everything behind and just have some time alone with yourselves, no distractions.

3. Communication should be mixed with fun and laughter: Life is not about being serious all the time. Make your conversations very enjoyable  then you can proceed to saying about your issues.

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4. Remember why you got married: Focus on what you love and cherish about each other, this should be motivating enough.

5. Create time to talk: Scheduling a talk time between you  and your spouse. Look forward to it each day and watch your level of communication get better.

The Perfect Romantic Massage to Turn Your Lover On

What better way to relax and turn your partner on at the same time than with a sensual massage that can lead to hotter, naughtier activities?

The Big Bang Theory’s Leonard professes to be the King of Foreplay and Penny seems to agree. We bet he knew how to use a sensual massage to prolong his foreplay. Here’s how you can give sensual massages to your partner, and maybe you’ll hook your own Penny to stay.

What comes to mind when you think of sensual massages? Gentle hands warmed with scented oils touching your skin, while lying on your stomach in a room filled with a relaxing, ambient tune? It makes you want to just succumb to the allures of utter relaxation, doesn’t it? Well, it doesn’t take a genius *or a brilliant physicist with a PhD* to realize that these are the same ingredients to a sensual night in bed with your partner.
Sensual massage is the art of giving pleasure, while allowing your partner to release the tensions of a hard day’s work or a stressful week. Moreover, it primes them for a sensual night with you, their caring and sensitive partner.
What you need for the perfect sensual massage experience
Before you embark in this sensual endeavor, you need to make sure you have everything that you need. To give the perfect sensual massage, you have to set the mood. That means getting the right music, setting the room ambience, choosing the oils, and preparing the bed.
The best music for a sensual massage
#1 Nature music is a staple in massage salons and spas. However, instead of using typical forest sounds, try one with ocean waves or rain sounds. Who hasn’t fantasized about having sex on the sand with the ocean waves providing the backdrop for their sexual abandon? With their eyes closed, your partner is sure to have this picture in mind.
#2 Spanish guitar music. If you think nature music is too cliché, try a little Spanish guitar music. It conjures visions of a dashing Spaniard with a silky voice, strumming a sexy acoustic guitar, while a sultry Spanish woman with golden tanned skin sways to the music. It is soothing but with a hint of passion, priming your partner to a passion-filled night with you.
#3 Tantric music. For a more direct approach, try sensual music designed especially for lovers like Tantric Heart. It’s a music collection inspired by the ancient tantric cultures of the east. It is sure to unleash the Tantric god or goddess in your partner.
Setting up the room for a sensual massage
If you’re giving the massage in the bedroom, get some scented candles to light up the room. If you’re wary about all that open flame, opt for scented oils warmed in an incense burner. Mix 3 parts of water with 1 part oil to maximize the scent. Choose from some warm scents like vanilla or rose or a combination of the two. You may also choose a soothing scent like mint. Throw some colored scarves over the light fixtures to give the room a warm glow. Make sure the room temperature is not too cold, but not so warm either. You want your session steamy, not your partner sweaty.
Preparing the massage surface
Your bed can be the perfect setting for a sensual massage if you don’t want to kill the mood while switching rooms or positions when you get to the steamy part. However, if your bed is so soft that it yields to your weight easily, the floor next to your bed could be a good place to start with. Line the floor neatly with thick fluffy towels so your lover’s comfortable, and don’t worry about getting messy!
You may also opt to use a massage bed if one is available. Prepare a soft thin pillow so your partner can rest their head on it when they’re lying down. Make sure you have extra towels to cover the exposed parts you are not massaging. You want your partner warmed, not chilled.
The best oils to use for massaging your partner
Some people suggest using organic massage oils, such as almond oil or sandalwood oil. They are great for massages, as they feel luxurious on the skin and glides on easily. However, the downside to this is that most organic oils can cause latex condoms to weaken and break. They can also upset the sensitive Ph balance inside the vagina, causing unpleasant reactions.
For a perfect sensual massage, use “body safe” massage oils. These are massage oils that can double as lubricants, perfect for what you have in mind for later. Choose one with a thinner consistency for a smoother glide, but one with silicone or glycerin, so they do not dry out quickly. Some oils also have a cooling or warming effect, which can be nice to experiment with. Just remember, a little goes a long way.
How to give the ultimate sensual massage
Giving a perfect sensual massage can be daunting for beginners with no massage experience. I would suggest you get a regular massage first to know the basic motions, such as rubbing and kneading, as well as what motions work for certain areas of the body.
Nonetheless, what’s important when giving a sensual massage is keeping in touch with your partner’s reactions, what motions work for them, what makes them sigh with pleasure, and what intensity they feel comfortable with.
#1 Head massage. A head massage is a perfect introduction to the sensual treat you have prepared for them. Stripped down, lying on their stomach with only a towel covering them, it can be nerve-wracking for a partner you haven’t been intimate with. The head massage will make them forget any misgivings they may have had at first.
With their head on a pillow and facing up, start rubbing the temples in a circular motion. From the forehead, apply gentle pressure towards the scalp, like combing their hair with your fingers. Do this for about a minute, then move on to the other side. You can also run your fingers gently, applying some pressure towards the nape and the neck, as a precursor for the back and shoulder massage.
#2 Back and shoulder massage. Apply some oil on your hand and warm it, before rubbing it on your partner’s back. Start with the middle of the shoulders, below the nape. Rub your partner’s back from the middle, towards the shoulders. Drizzle a few drops of oil on their back, so your hands can glide against their back sensually, without sacrificing pressure.
Move your hands along their back, and experiment with a few Shiatsu strokes from the top of their back to the bottom. It’s an easy move to slide your hands along your lover’s back, but you’ll soon see that this simple move can turn out to be one of the most sensual and yet relaxing moves. Get on top of your partner and sit down gently on their lower back or their butt, so you can reach out everywhere without uncomfortable stretches. Bonus: If you’re a man, your partner gets to feel your bulging cock as you massage them. Scorching hot, right?
#3 Legs and arms massage. While they’re still lying on their stomach, massage the arms by gently stroking the muscles. Focus on the hands, particularly the palms and the fingers. When massaging the legs, move your hands softly in circular motions, paying more attention to the thighs and the calves.
Don’t forget to massage the feet as these are easily the most stressed part of the body. Massage the heels, toes, and the pads of their feet. Be gentle, but not too gentle as you might end up tickling them.
#4 Buttocks massage. This is when it gets a little steamy. From the legs, work your hands up to their butt. Circle your palms against their butt cheeks as you spread the sensual oils all around. With your palms on the butt, work your hands around in circular motions. Lightly knead the buttocks and press it upwards. Make sure to apply slight pressure only, as this can be painful.
To test the waters, ever-so-lightly graze a finger in between the buttocks towards the dip on the back. If they don’t tell you to mind your fingers, then they’re ready for the next stage.
#5 Sensual massage as foreplay. Have them lie on their back with their head lying on your lap, as you sit facing their feet. Start with a few circular motions on the temples, then gently stroke the nape towards the scalp. Comb the hair from the back of the head towards you, with your fingers, applying a bit of pressure. Lightly stroke the neck and the nape.
From the sides of the chest, make gentle upward strokes towards the underarm and arching towards the top of the breast *not the nipples* or the chest area and the cleavage. You don’t want to go directly towards the nipples. Instead, build anticipation and focus on the areas surrounding the breasts, as well as the stomach area. Be gentle!
Lightly massage the hips and the sides of the waist. Make gentle stroking motions instead of kneading, then massage the breasts, gently kneading them. Your partner should be writhing in pleasure by now. Top with a kiss on the nipples and a gentle finger graze in between the lips of her vagina, and… Well surely, you don’t need me to give you directions from here!
A sensual massage need not be as long as an hour to have the desired effect. A 10-minute rubdown, if done correctly, can send your partner into relaxation heaven, primed and eager to engage in a sensual adventure with their Tantric sex god or goddess: YOU.

3 Types Of Boyfriend Which Do You Belong?????

 

Certainly no boyfriend  is perfect to categorize, but with the attitude they exhibit we can tell who can be entertained into our lives. Some  guys can be annoying, sweet, tolerating and disgusting at the same time.
Which do you belong? Is it the bad boyfriend, sweet or annoying. There are lots of boyfriends out there with vary characters too, here are 3 boyfriends for you to choose which you are categorized under.
1.The Bad Boyfriend

The bad boyfriend do not treat his  girlfriend the way she deserves to be treated and tends to go after girls with low self-confidence because, honestly, he couldn’t get any other girls. He is selfish with getting only what he wants without seeking the opinion of the girlfriend, his issues comes first and every other issue left undisclosed, he takes advantage of her love by cheating, abusing her either mentally or physically making her feel bad and sad and always lying about the truth in their whole relationship. He prefered his game to a conversation.
2. The Sweet Boyfriend

The sweet boyfriend has no issue, he is missed by his girlfriend every second. He tries to understand what she wants, needs and tries to give it to her, he goes a long way to keep her happy. He understands what she needs emotionally and he gives it to her, he understands what she needs sexually and he gives it to her, he communicates well – which includes both talking and listening and he is patient with her and her emotions and he is always there for her to lean on. The sweet boyfriend never goes a day without knowing how his girlfriend is feeling, he is truthful about the relationship, never gets bored with your family’s  problems. He enjoys her nagging and misses her absent. Finally he loves her for who she is and not what she is.


3. The Annoying Boyfriend

This type of boyfriend is seen as irritating at time. This type of boyfriend pleases her, to some extent, he makes women question a lot of things about the relationship and they often go through moods of feeling contused about him and the relationship about themselves sometimes. The confusion shows itself as anger or tears mostly, which makes him confused and hurts her even more. It is a vicious cycle.
If you are this type of guy then you may want to rethink how you interact with women in relationships. You are never going to be in a healthy and good relationship with her until you start communicating properly and understanding her needs…and meeting those needs.

How To Make Your Girlfriend Like You Again If She Is Loosing Interest

Hey, brother…

HERE IS WHAT I WILL SHOW YOU IN THIS POST

In this post I’m going to show you how to rekindle the interest of a girl who, liked you before, but is loosing interest in you now.
What I will be showing you is plain simple psychology and can work on both a guy and a girl.

That is, if a girl who you are loosing interest in uses this on you – it would work too (And vice versa).

Now. Let’s be clear about this. The secrets I am about to show you will not work on a girl if she NEVER liked you before
What do I mean?

I will make it clearer.
ONLY USE THIS STRATEGY IF…

…the girl in question had shown you interest in the past.

That is when you two started dating
– She had been calling you
– Telling you how much she misses you
– Telling you how much she loves you
Etc etc…

But now she doesn’t do any of that again.
IF YOU HAD BEEN MALTREATING HER, Then maybe that is the problem. Never maltreat a woman, it’s wrong…

BUT

If after you two started dating, you had been caring to her.

– You had told her how much you loved her.
– You’ve always called her up to ask of her well being.
– You had always spent on her, and have been a realiable shoulder for her.

AND STILL SHE LOST INTEREST IN YOU, then this strategy is for you….but before I show you the strategy, let me first tell you why she lost interest in you.

HERE IS WHY SHE LOST INTEREST IN YOU
It’s not because she is a bad person, don’t blame the poor girl. The fault is entirely yours. The reason she lost interest in you is because:
You became too predictable and too boring.
Check am out na….
If person dey always call you everyday to ask you about your day.
Always keep saying that they love you everyday

Always keep telling you that they love you. always doing the same type of hanging out, always always doing the same thing over and over again – why she no go lose interest. Even if na you sef.

It’s like watching one movie over and over again.

When it comes to relationships a girl expects you to lead the way, but when the way you always lead is the boring path, she will dump you and move over to the next interesting dude.

In my next post – I will explain how to make your relationship exciting so a girl would always thank her stars she is dating you.

But for now:
THE STRATEGY FOR GETTING BACK A GIRL YOU ARE LOOSING.
 
 
This strategy follows 3 steps. To use it, you have to follow the steps the way I will list them here.
Ok?

Let’s begin…

#Step 1: Get A Bait For Her.

To do this, what you have to do is to find ANOTHER GIRL you will be using to get YOUR GIRLFRIEND jealous.

You don’t have to be close to this girl, all you need is to be on a talking terms with her. She might be an acquittance, a colleague, a classmate or just a friend.
But here is the thing no matter what let that girl be more good looking that your girlfriend.

if their level of looks is equal, then she shouldhave more dress sense than your babe.

If your babe fine pas s am and dresses better than her then this won’t work. (If you’ve been following my article by now you would know how to get any girl you want to become JUST friends with you)

#Step 2: Use The “Birthday Trick” On Her:

After getting the “bait girl”. Then it’s time to kick up step two.
How do you do this?

Casually tell your girlfriend that there is this female friend of yours whose birthday is coming up soon and that you want to surprise her with a gift.

Then ask your girlfriend to, from a female point of view, suggest the type of gift that a girl would go crazy about.
This should be casual…
Get her suggestions, thank her and end the discussion…

#Step 3: Play The Social Media Card:

Two days later, if this new girl has a birthday, fine. But if she doesn’t – no wahala.

On the day of the “Fictional birthday” tell the female friend that you want to “show her off to the world”.

And that you will advertise her on your social media accounts…you can even jokingly tell her that you want the guys on your social media account to trip for her and that she should make sure she “chows” any of them wey fall mugu.

She would feel flattered, if you tease her well she would agree (I’ve explained how to tease girls in my other posts)

When she agrees…
Scatter her best picture on all your social media accounts and keep it there for a long time (Maybe for days)

Facebook profile picture, watsapp dp, bbm dp – everywhere.
The facebook’s one will draw comments from your guys.

If any of them asks – na your babe? Don’t give a direct answer, you could just say: ‘Lol. You too dey ask nonsense questions, guy.”

This will draw your girlfriend’s attention by now and she will start “taking notice”.

#Step 4: Drop Gists On Your Babe:

To do this, whenever you call your girlfriend or chat with her – start telling her about how “the female friend” took you out today to watch a new movie.

Then go on to tell her about the movies.
Next tell her about some other things you did together with this new babe. Tell her the new babe got you a gift recently. As in, hype the female friend whenever the opportunity comes up.

Do this subtly, don’t make it obvious that you are trying to get her jealous. Just the stories like you will normal gists.

#Step 5: START PULL BACK.

This is where you start acting like you are loosing interest in this girlfriend. stop telling her you love her, stop telling her you miss her, call her less often, put up the new girl’s pictures more often on your social media accounts, change it as much as you want.

Then watch what will happen.
Her reactions will wow you.
The reason why this works so well on girls is because they hate loosing a guy who once loved them to another girl, especially if she is prettier than them.
This is why you hear them make jokes about thier ex’s new babe being ugly.

Once she feels your interest in going down and the reason is because you met a girl better than her, it hurts her pride, presses her jealousy buttons and makes her see you as someone she has to win back.

Before you say it can’t work, try it first. If it doesn’t work then come back and feel free to pour all your insults.